A church is built out of relationships. A home is built out of relationships. You can’t build either on wrong relationships.
As a parent, have you ever confessed your sin to your children? I remember years ago, somewhere around about 1950, I got unreasonably angry with one of my daughters. I said things to her I oughtn’t to have said. I didn’t smack her or anything like that, but I got angry.
After that, I had this strange sort of pressure in my chest. I thought to myself, “Where does that come from?” Then I happened to read a verse in Ecclesiastes, “For anger rests in the bosom of fools” (7:9), and I knew what my problem was. I also knew there was only one solution— and it wasn’t easy to do.
I had to go to my daughter and say, “I’m sorry I got angry with you. I shouldn’t have spoken to you like that.” When I said that to her, the pressure lifted from my chest.
I believe the key to self-humbling is confessing our sins. At least it is a good place to start. Confess them to God; confess them to one another.